It’s more common than people admit. For some women, it’s not about desire at all. Anxiety, past bad experiences, strong gag reflex, jaw or neck discomfort, hygiene concerns, lack of trust, or simply not feeling emotionally safe can make certain intimate acts feel impossible. Others were never taught that intimacy should be mutual and comfortable—not a performance.
There’s also a big mental side: pressure, embarrassment, or fear of being judged can shut everything down instantly. When communication is missing, even attraction isn’t enough.
The truth? Intimacy isn’t one-size-fits-all. What matters most is consent, comfort, and connection—everything else comes later… See more 
